Post by Dave on Aug 29, 2009 10:54:29 GMT
Carol and I have been together for 17 years now, but for ten of those years we lived in sin. ;D On Sunday the 30th August we will celebrate seven years as a married couple and I have to be 100 % honest here and say there was a time I did not think we would reach even this milestone together.
If you missed this thread,
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Then you may not know the reasons why I felt that, but I can’t really be blamed for having those thoughts, under the circumstances they were perfectly normal and understandable.
To think seven years ago on this very day, I was getting so excited about my marriage to Carol, Rolf was here from Holland and had come over to be my best man and then the day came and I set off to Oldway to await the arrival of my beautiful bride.
Just two months later we were both shattered to learn the news that she had breast cancer, some not so nice people were saying she knew she had a lump before she married me, only was afraid I would not go ahead with it if I knew.
Well sorry people who said those things, but I can assure you I was for a better word, playing with those things and would have known if there was a lump the size of the one Carol had to start with.
Anyway even if we had found out before the date of the wedding, it would have made no difference to me, I loved this lady so much and anyone who knows her, will tell you that she is really special and has a heart so big and even when she has so much to deal with in her own life, she still and always will put others before herself.
In 1990 I had great help from a lady who was a customer on my milk round, she did counselling and knew at that time how troubled I was after I felt I had no choice but to end my first marriage. We still send Christmas cards to each other every year (well Carols sorts that for me). I remember so well bumping into her in Torquay four weeks after I learned Carol had got cancer and as you would expect at that time I was struggling to come to terms with it and had such major fears and worries.
She asked me how many years Carol and I had been together and when I told her and remembering she knew how bad and unhappy my life had been before, she said I had had those wonderful and very happy years with Carol.
Bur her words only made me angry, yes I had those wonderful years with Carol, but I wanted them to go on and last forever, how could I face what life I may have left without the only person who has really loved me and been the very best friend I have had in my life, the only person who has given me what I spent half my life looking for.
So our wedding anniversary is not just about celebrating being married for seven years, its also about the fact that we are still together as one and this world is still blessed to have such a wonderful person still here and still giving out all the love she has to every single person.
The very powerful drugs she takes to stay alive are taking a big toll on her body and even more so her bones, how she smiles each and everyday with the pain her bones and joints cause her, has to the 8th wonder of the world as far as I’m concerned.
This last year has been hard for her, further problems found and more chemo treatment that would have finished me off for sure, but she has come through it and that has to be the 9th wonder of the world.
When tomorrow is over we will together do as we do every single day and that is to take each one as it comes, do all we can to get the most from those days and ensure we show and display to each other the love we share and treasure so very much .We then march on and hope and pray that we will be able to celebrate our next anniversary together,
The fact is no one knows what tomorrow will bring and that is why we all need to show our love to those we love and do our best to treat all our fellow human beings in the correct and proper way, because the only thing we do know for certain, is one day it will be our last one here on earth, so lets not waste the ones we have left feeling hatred and bitterness and fill them instead with love, joy and happiness.
If you missed this thread,
torquayfansforum.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=pop&action=display&thread=1060
Then you may not know the reasons why I felt that, but I can’t really be blamed for having those thoughts, under the circumstances they were perfectly normal and understandable.
To think seven years ago on this very day, I was getting so excited about my marriage to Carol, Rolf was here from Holland and had come over to be my best man and then the day came and I set off to Oldway to await the arrival of my beautiful bride.
Just two months later we were both shattered to learn the news that she had breast cancer, some not so nice people were saying she knew she had a lump before she married me, only was afraid I would not go ahead with it if I knew.
Well sorry people who said those things, but I can assure you I was for a better word, playing with those things and would have known if there was a lump the size of the one Carol had to start with.
Anyway even if we had found out before the date of the wedding, it would have made no difference to me, I loved this lady so much and anyone who knows her, will tell you that she is really special and has a heart so big and even when she has so much to deal with in her own life, she still and always will put others before herself.
In 1990 I had great help from a lady who was a customer on my milk round, she did counselling and knew at that time how troubled I was after I felt I had no choice but to end my first marriage. We still send Christmas cards to each other every year (well Carols sorts that for me). I remember so well bumping into her in Torquay four weeks after I learned Carol had got cancer and as you would expect at that time I was struggling to come to terms with it and had such major fears and worries.
She asked me how many years Carol and I had been together and when I told her and remembering she knew how bad and unhappy my life had been before, she said I had had those wonderful and very happy years with Carol.
Bur her words only made me angry, yes I had those wonderful years with Carol, but I wanted them to go on and last forever, how could I face what life I may have left without the only person who has really loved me and been the very best friend I have had in my life, the only person who has given me what I spent half my life looking for.
So our wedding anniversary is not just about celebrating being married for seven years, its also about the fact that we are still together as one and this world is still blessed to have such a wonderful person still here and still giving out all the love she has to every single person.
The very powerful drugs she takes to stay alive are taking a big toll on her body and even more so her bones, how she smiles each and everyday with the pain her bones and joints cause her, has to the 8th wonder of the world as far as I’m concerned.
This last year has been hard for her, further problems found and more chemo treatment that would have finished me off for sure, but she has come through it and that has to be the 9th wonder of the world.
When tomorrow is over we will together do as we do every single day and that is to take each one as it comes, do all we can to get the most from those days and ensure we show and display to each other the love we share and treasure so very much .We then march on and hope and pray that we will be able to celebrate our next anniversary together,
The fact is no one knows what tomorrow will bring and that is why we all need to show our love to those we love and do our best to treat all our fellow human beings in the correct and proper way, because the only thing we do know for certain, is one day it will be our last one here on earth, so lets not waste the ones we have left feeling hatred and bitterness and fill them instead with love, joy and happiness.
