Post by Dave on Jul 30, 2010 21:23:25 GMT
After I finished work today I dashed (sorry crawled in the traffic) over to Paignton to pick Carol up from work to take her to do her weekly shop, she has worked a fair few extra hours this week as she has been in charge all week of the care home she works at.
When we finally got indoors at 6pm after getting up at 4.50am this morning we both said how knackered and worn out we were and we agreed that it’s been a very hard week at work for the both of us.
Maybe after having a week of together last week where we did not have to get up so early is the reason this week has seemed so hard and demanding and one thing I do know is that if I ever win the lottery, you won’t find me saying I want to carry on working.
Is it really 40 years since I left school? Out of the 55 years I have lived, have I really done 40 years of hard labour and just when the end was insight, is it true they want to move the goalposts and keep me working even longer? I will be more than happy to finish work for good just as soon as I’m able to and enjoy being free to spend my days how I choose and there is no way I will ever get bored and crave to go back to work.
As far as I’m concerned having to go to work is just something I have to do and I have now got to the point where I feel is just a bloody intrusion in my life but I’m sure for Carol that is not the case and she looks at going to work in a completely different way.
For her its all about having things to do that play a very vital role in the real fight she has to face each and everyday and the thing is she loves all those old people she cares for and treats them all like they were her grand parents and that’s why on days like today when another one passed away, she got into our car with tears in her eyes.
If ever anyone were really unsure that we all die in the end, then my advice would be to go and work in a place like Carol works in and I’m sure each time one of the residents passes away, she thinks about her own situation and the fact she has to take each day as it comes.
I gave her such a big hug when we got indoors as I’m so very proud of her and the fact that she was able to take on such a big responsibility this week and did a very fine job indeed.
When I met her 18 years ago she was as quite as a mouse and had no self confidence and lacked any self esteem as she foolishly believed it must have been her fault the way the only two men she had ever had in her life treated her. NO it was not her fault, they simply took advantage of her wonderful giving nature and abused the trust she put in them to love and look after her as she deserved.
One of the things that has made me the happiest in my life, has been to see the changes in Carol since the first time I set eyes on her, back then she would have been first in the queue to be given the job in the back room and out of sight where she would not have had to deal with anyone else. This week it’s been her job to give out the pills to the residents, her job to meet with the doctors and health workers and to deal with all the relatives of those living in the home and she did it with confidence and with a smile on her face at all times.
Gone are the days when she let people walk all over her and now she is not afraid to speak up when there is a need for her to do so and I know while she would never say as much due to the fact its not in her nature to be boastful, she feels proud of herself and feels a real sense of achievement.
Yes being in a loving relationship where she knows she has someone to depend on, someone who is always going to be there for her and support her every inch of the way has played a big part in the changes Carol has made and in life they are the most important things we all need but not all are lucky enough to have.
We all have a part to play in everyone’s life we meet or even just talk too on a forum and we all have the power to make people feel worthwhile and worthy and we also have to power to destroy others by our words and actions. We have the power to make people happy and smile and we have to power to hurt them and make them cry.
I always do my best to treat others as I want to be treated myself, it’s the only way and while there will always be people who will treat us bad, is that any reason to feel we then have an excuse to do the same to others? As long as I run the TFF, I will always do my best to promote goodwill and encourage friendships as apposed to people ending up having bad feelings toward each other.
Its been a good week on the forum and the stats have been very pleasing reading indeed, Aussie sadly has gone too quite and it was great to see Kev posting in the week, we have missed him on here and I hope we will see much more of him now the new season is about to start.
On to this weeks winner and he really is a great family man and Carol and I had the pleasure of being treated out by him and his good lady for a meal with the whole family. He has treated us to many great pictures of his holiday in Scotland and I love seeing the latest pictures of the twins who anyone would fall in love with if they were ever lucky enough to meet them. Tell them you love dinosaurs and you will have two little friends for life.
This weeks winner is Stuartb, never thought he was ever going to win this award, but he fully deserves it if only for being such a good member and supporter of the TFF and someone I'm proud to call my friend .
well done Stuart.
As the best posts have contain lots of photos I won’t repost them on this thread, instead just click on his name and you can view all the posts he has made this week on the TFF
When we finally got indoors at 6pm after getting up at 4.50am this morning we both said how knackered and worn out we were and we agreed that it’s been a very hard week at work for the both of us.
Maybe after having a week of together last week where we did not have to get up so early is the reason this week has seemed so hard and demanding and one thing I do know is that if I ever win the lottery, you won’t find me saying I want to carry on working.
Is it really 40 years since I left school? Out of the 55 years I have lived, have I really done 40 years of hard labour and just when the end was insight, is it true they want to move the goalposts and keep me working even longer? I will be more than happy to finish work for good just as soon as I’m able to and enjoy being free to spend my days how I choose and there is no way I will ever get bored and crave to go back to work.
As far as I’m concerned having to go to work is just something I have to do and I have now got to the point where I feel is just a bloody intrusion in my life but I’m sure for Carol that is not the case and she looks at going to work in a completely different way.
For her its all about having things to do that play a very vital role in the real fight she has to face each and everyday and the thing is she loves all those old people she cares for and treats them all like they were her grand parents and that’s why on days like today when another one passed away, she got into our car with tears in her eyes.
If ever anyone were really unsure that we all die in the end, then my advice would be to go and work in a place like Carol works in and I’m sure each time one of the residents passes away, she thinks about her own situation and the fact she has to take each day as it comes.
I gave her such a big hug when we got indoors as I’m so very proud of her and the fact that she was able to take on such a big responsibility this week and did a very fine job indeed.
When I met her 18 years ago she was as quite as a mouse and had no self confidence and lacked any self esteem as she foolishly believed it must have been her fault the way the only two men she had ever had in her life treated her. NO it was not her fault, they simply took advantage of her wonderful giving nature and abused the trust she put in them to love and look after her as she deserved.
One of the things that has made me the happiest in my life, has been to see the changes in Carol since the first time I set eyes on her, back then she would have been first in the queue to be given the job in the back room and out of sight where she would not have had to deal with anyone else. This week it’s been her job to give out the pills to the residents, her job to meet with the doctors and health workers and to deal with all the relatives of those living in the home and she did it with confidence and with a smile on her face at all times.
Gone are the days when she let people walk all over her and now she is not afraid to speak up when there is a need for her to do so and I know while she would never say as much due to the fact its not in her nature to be boastful, she feels proud of herself and feels a real sense of achievement.
Yes being in a loving relationship where she knows she has someone to depend on, someone who is always going to be there for her and support her every inch of the way has played a big part in the changes Carol has made and in life they are the most important things we all need but not all are lucky enough to have.
We all have a part to play in everyone’s life we meet or even just talk too on a forum and we all have the power to make people feel worthwhile and worthy and we also have to power to destroy others by our words and actions. We have the power to make people happy and smile and we have to power to hurt them and make them cry.
I always do my best to treat others as I want to be treated myself, it’s the only way and while there will always be people who will treat us bad, is that any reason to feel we then have an excuse to do the same to others? As long as I run the TFF, I will always do my best to promote goodwill and encourage friendships as apposed to people ending up having bad feelings toward each other.
Its been a good week on the forum and the stats have been very pleasing reading indeed, Aussie sadly has gone too quite and it was great to see Kev posting in the week, we have missed him on here and I hope we will see much more of him now the new season is about to start.
On to this weeks winner and he really is a great family man and Carol and I had the pleasure of being treated out by him and his good lady for a meal with the whole family. He has treated us to many great pictures of his holiday in Scotland and I love seeing the latest pictures of the twins who anyone would fall in love with if they were ever lucky enough to meet them. Tell them you love dinosaurs and you will have two little friends for life.
This weeks winner is Stuartb, never thought he was ever going to win this award, but he fully deserves it if only for being such a good member and supporter of the TFF and someone I'm proud to call my friend .
well done Stuart.
As the best posts have contain lots of photos I won’t repost them on this thread, instead just click on his name and you can view all the posts he has made this week on the TFF
I feel exactly the same as you Dave. Like you, I have worked extremely hard and for long hours for forty years and then when I fell to a serious health issue four months ago; what I felt had already become a very difficult position due to the recession, all of a sudden became a catastrophic one.