Post by Dave on Sept 24, 2010 20:02:49 GMT
I had not been in the bath too long before Carol was at the door telling me there was someone on the phone for me, she had told me who it was and asked if she should ask him to call back. It was someone we all know (no not that merse) and while I had planned to stay in the bath a good while after a week on the road where every single day I got held up and delayed far too long due to things such as road works, accidents and surprising a number of vehicle fires, the fact this man phoned as he wanted to make sure I was OK meant far more to me than my planned soak in the bath.
My problem in life has always been that I care far to much and far more than I should sometimes about everything I do and am involved with and everyone I meet and the end result is I do end up so often under great pressure that comes from wanting what I care about to be the very best it can be. I care about my standard of work for my company and its why I never take short cuts or miss out the odd call or two when I’m already running very late and know its going to be another day I work a further two hours for free.
I see it all as a price I have to pay to be the person I want to be and caring is so very important to me and how nice it is when out of the blue you get a call and all because someone cared enough about you to pick up the phone and make the call.
Three weeks ago when it all just got a bit to much for me I tried hard to convince myself I didn’t care about the TFF or what happened too it as I felt the TFF had played a big part in what happened to my mind and when you blame anything for what’s happened, then its only natural I suppose to want to walk away from it and tell yourself you no longer care.
There has been times where I felt it would be nice to have a switch I could just flick over to take me out of the caring mode, boy how many broken hearts that would have saved me and how many rivers of tears shed I would not have had too. Tears and heartache so often not happening because of anything done to me but because I felt so deeply the pain of those around me or those who had invited me into their lives to help and support them.
Carol has witnessed the tears I have cried when my boy has been deeply hurt inside, only he is not like me and never lets the pain show through to the outside, but I feel his pain and just like any other caring parent would when they know their offspring is hurting.
There was a time in my life I lived behind a wall, I felt it was the only way I could stop all the pain, but I soon learned by doing so you missed out on the chance of finding love and people to care about you and yes by coming out from behind the wall you do run the risk of getting hurt again, it is a price worth paying for what others can give you in your life and just think if I had stayed behind that wall I would never have had Carol in my life.
My friend to night reminded me of all that is so good about the TFF, I already knew some important people at our club had been amazed at the knowledge so many TFF members had and the intelligent debates they were capable of holding on here. He asked if there was another forum that had such a great history room where some really magic things have happened, or a forum that had such a growing number of programmes on it that each tell us about how things were at our club over the years.
When I think about some of the really amazing things that have been written on this forum I feel a bit sad that over time it as ended up buried deeper and deeper down in the forum and I do think I need to give some thought about having a special board where we can keep together all the very best of the TFF. The thing is when things have gone wrong on here I have always feared anyone reading our forum for the first time would think we were just a typical football forum and not bother looking any further and the end result would be they would never have found all the great content that is on the TFF.
It’s hard for me when things do go wrong on here; yes I get very frustrated that we have moved away from what made the TFF that bit more special and the real hard part is how to deal with it. I can’t just act like some big brother type as at the end of the day I really need to be seen as the fellow member I just want to be. All I try to do is get the message across that such things do harm our forum and do stop others from posting on it or just reading it.
None of us want to see harmed something we have all put so much into and have taken so much pleasure out of and if there is one thing I do feel proud about, it’s the fact the TFF has brought together in one place so many people who have such great knowledge and also brought together a really great bunch of people who on the whole get on well together and so many have formed real friendships by just becoming a TFF member.
So I know I can try and pretend all I want but I know I can never stop caring about the TFF or ever will I’m afraid and I’ll just have to try harder to make sure I smile when the forum does and not let it hurt me so much when it all goes the way it really should not go but does and will do so again simply because while the TFF is so many other things, I must not forget its also a forum.
So onto this week’s winner and a member who I do have the greatest respect for as he is such a knowledgeable man and at his very best is one of the forums most valuable assets. Mind you he has caused me a number of times to pull my hair out and he has upset a few times as well. I hope deep down he knows the sort of person I am and why I work hard to try and make the TFF a forum we can all feel very proud of and one that stands out for all the right reasons and not ever become what we all came here to get away from.
This weeks winner is Merse, well done Alan, I know this is not really your thing as such, but most on here know the TFF would not be the same without you and I’m glad they voted for you this week.
A few post made this week by Merse.
1
Merse I never said no one was not allowed to strike as you well know, what I did say was I felt no one body should have the power to bring the country down on its knees,
I appreciate where your coming from Dave, but what you say about stopping others from getting to work cannot be the catalyst for bringing in Fascist measures to take away THOSE individuals who work in your hand picked occupations the right to withdraw their labour.
Whoever refuses to work it doesn't matter, you can't have one law for one citizen and one for another.
I agree that people shouldn't be able to stay at home for the same nett financial result by drawing benefit as working...................so up those bloody piss taking wages then!
I think your attitude to work is superb and I suspect that your employer is taking the piss because of it. I don't think that reflects on you in any way, but it sure as hell does on him. Workers like you who show a conscientious and diligent manner should be rewarded not taken for granted and taken advantage of and are the living epitome as to why trade unions are needed in some companies. I agree that where companies are honourable and respectful of employees the need isn't so great but unfortunately that isn't the case is it as you well know.
..................and please don't trot out this "the country's in a mess" sob story. The country was in a mess after the Second World War and public investment was the catalyst for re-generation and towards full employment. Now it is in a mess through no fault of the country's workforce save the "investment" banks, this government want to cut public investment and desecrate public services. They want to continue allowing the bankers their bonuses despite the £23,000 billion they have pumped into the private banking industry to prop it up. They want to continue war mongering in the style of Thatcher and B Liar with all the terrible cost of human misery and financial ruin that accompanies it.
Rob stated on here earlier that the Falklands War had given this country back it's self respect........................you're a bloody lunatic saying that; what the feck did THAT achieve save divert attention away from a bunch of senile old reactionaries waging class war on their own people?
We went to war with Argentina over a wind blown piece of rock in the South Atlantic? Winston Churchill must have been laughing in his grave ~ we'd have been better off going to war with the moon for daring to "go out" once a month!
2
Let's face it, truly gifted 2-footed players are few and far between. Any club that finds a 2-footed player with footie skills that parallel the ambidextrous world class snooker skills of Ronnie O'Sullivan will truly have unearthed a unique footballer.
Fair point - even Lionel Messi is predominately one-footed (but what a foot!).
And yet I am incredulous that someone of the experience and playing at the standard of Ashley Cole has failed to practice using his right foot for kicking.
Two footed players "unique" ? ~ gimme a break!
Anthony has been two footed since he could kick a ball because I judicioisly made sure he would be............rolling a tiny ball to either foot in turn and I do the same to Calvin now who is just 16 months old.
The left side of the brain drives the right side of the body and vice versa and it is natural to be predominantly in favour of one side but this can be overcome by retraining the brain in the same way that stroke victims overcome their paralysis so that they can use their left hand if they had been right handed but lost the use of it. It's just a question of practice, practice, practice. I was born left footed and right handed but worked on my right foot enough to be comfortable with either foot ~ bloody useless but comfortable
It IS through lack of practice that players are one footed and although I'll concede there have been some genius one footed players (surely none finer than Ferenc Puskas who was painfully left footed) if you really care to study players on the world stage you will see plenty of world class two footed players.
The younger someone is, the less difficult it is to overcome one footedness, so the hard work needs to be done at the very outset; then it becomes as natural as breathing and that is why ALL soccer tots classes should feature less on the "but they must have fun" mantra and more on the basics. To me "they must have fun" is an apologists excuse for failing to attain the levels needed and a diversion from the need to acquire basic technique.
I spend loads of time with Anthony, chucking him balls to get under control in difficult situations ~ balls that would be called "rubbish" balls out on the football field ~ under his chin, too wide, too fast and sold short; so that he maintains the ability to get that ball under control when he is under pressure in a game and in a tight corner. All the "Cruyff Turns" and "Messi Flicks" in the world won't help you if you haven't got command of the ruddy ball in the first place and all the genius's have mastered the basics.
What's the use of being able to do "Keepie Uppies" for minutes at a time if you can't trap a bag of cement? If you have the first touch of a rapist, or if you shank everything with your "weaker" foot?
Ashley Cole is a wonderfully gifted footballer, but he could have been so much better.
My problem in life has always been that I care far to much and far more than I should sometimes about everything I do and am involved with and everyone I meet and the end result is I do end up so often under great pressure that comes from wanting what I care about to be the very best it can be. I care about my standard of work for my company and its why I never take short cuts or miss out the odd call or two when I’m already running very late and know its going to be another day I work a further two hours for free.
I see it all as a price I have to pay to be the person I want to be and caring is so very important to me and how nice it is when out of the blue you get a call and all because someone cared enough about you to pick up the phone and make the call.
Three weeks ago when it all just got a bit to much for me I tried hard to convince myself I didn’t care about the TFF or what happened too it as I felt the TFF had played a big part in what happened to my mind and when you blame anything for what’s happened, then its only natural I suppose to want to walk away from it and tell yourself you no longer care.
There has been times where I felt it would be nice to have a switch I could just flick over to take me out of the caring mode, boy how many broken hearts that would have saved me and how many rivers of tears shed I would not have had too. Tears and heartache so often not happening because of anything done to me but because I felt so deeply the pain of those around me or those who had invited me into their lives to help and support them.
Carol has witnessed the tears I have cried when my boy has been deeply hurt inside, only he is not like me and never lets the pain show through to the outside, but I feel his pain and just like any other caring parent would when they know their offspring is hurting.
There was a time in my life I lived behind a wall, I felt it was the only way I could stop all the pain, but I soon learned by doing so you missed out on the chance of finding love and people to care about you and yes by coming out from behind the wall you do run the risk of getting hurt again, it is a price worth paying for what others can give you in your life and just think if I had stayed behind that wall I would never have had Carol in my life.
My friend to night reminded me of all that is so good about the TFF, I already knew some important people at our club had been amazed at the knowledge so many TFF members had and the intelligent debates they were capable of holding on here. He asked if there was another forum that had such a great history room where some really magic things have happened, or a forum that had such a growing number of programmes on it that each tell us about how things were at our club over the years.
When I think about some of the really amazing things that have been written on this forum I feel a bit sad that over time it as ended up buried deeper and deeper down in the forum and I do think I need to give some thought about having a special board where we can keep together all the very best of the TFF. The thing is when things have gone wrong on here I have always feared anyone reading our forum for the first time would think we were just a typical football forum and not bother looking any further and the end result would be they would never have found all the great content that is on the TFF.
It’s hard for me when things do go wrong on here; yes I get very frustrated that we have moved away from what made the TFF that bit more special and the real hard part is how to deal with it. I can’t just act like some big brother type as at the end of the day I really need to be seen as the fellow member I just want to be. All I try to do is get the message across that such things do harm our forum and do stop others from posting on it or just reading it.
None of us want to see harmed something we have all put so much into and have taken so much pleasure out of and if there is one thing I do feel proud about, it’s the fact the TFF has brought together in one place so many people who have such great knowledge and also brought together a really great bunch of people who on the whole get on well together and so many have formed real friendships by just becoming a TFF member.
So I know I can try and pretend all I want but I know I can never stop caring about the TFF or ever will I’m afraid and I’ll just have to try harder to make sure I smile when the forum does and not let it hurt me so much when it all goes the way it really should not go but does and will do so again simply because while the TFF is so many other things, I must not forget its also a forum.
So onto this week’s winner and a member who I do have the greatest respect for as he is such a knowledgeable man and at his very best is one of the forums most valuable assets. Mind you he has caused me a number of times to pull my hair out and he has upset a few times as well. I hope deep down he knows the sort of person I am and why I work hard to try and make the TFF a forum we can all feel very proud of and one that stands out for all the right reasons and not ever become what we all came here to get away from.
This weeks winner is Merse, well done Alan, I know this is not really your thing as such, but most on here know the TFF would not be the same without you and I’m glad they voted for you this week.
A few post made this week by Merse.
1
Merse I never said no one was not allowed to strike as you well know, what I did say was I felt no one body should have the power to bring the country down on its knees,
I appreciate where your coming from Dave, but what you say about stopping others from getting to work cannot be the catalyst for bringing in Fascist measures to take away THOSE individuals who work in your hand picked occupations the right to withdraw their labour.Whoever refuses to work it doesn't matter, you can't have one law for one citizen and one for another.
I agree that people shouldn't be able to stay at home for the same nett financial result by drawing benefit as working...................so up those bloody piss taking wages then!
I think your attitude to work is superb and I suspect that your employer is taking the piss because of it. I don't think that reflects on you in any way, but it sure as hell does on him. Workers like you who show a conscientious and diligent manner should be rewarded not taken for granted and taken advantage of and are the living epitome as to why trade unions are needed in some companies. I agree that where companies are honourable and respectful of employees the need isn't so great but unfortunately that isn't the case is it as you well know.
..................and please don't trot out this "the country's in a mess" sob story. The country was in a mess after the Second World War and public investment was the catalyst for re-generation and towards full employment. Now it is in a mess through no fault of the country's workforce save the "investment" banks, this government want to cut public investment and desecrate public services. They want to continue allowing the bankers their bonuses despite the £23,000 billion they have pumped into the private banking industry to prop it up. They want to continue war mongering in the style of Thatcher and B Liar with all the terrible cost of human misery and financial ruin that accompanies it.
Rob stated on here earlier that the Falklands War had given this country back it's self respect........................you're a bloody lunatic saying that; what the feck did THAT achieve save divert attention away from a bunch of senile old reactionaries waging class war on their own people?
We went to war with Argentina over a wind blown piece of rock in the South Atlantic? Winston Churchill must have been laughing in his grave ~ we'd have been better off going to war with the moon for daring to "go out" once a month!
2
Sept 22, 2010 2:49:28 GMT @floridagull said:
Let's face it, truly gifted 2-footed players are few and far between. Any club that finds a 2-footed player with footie skills that parallel the ambidextrous world class snooker skills of Ronnie O'Sullivan will truly have unearthed a unique footballer.
Fair point - even Lionel Messi is predominately one-footed (but what a foot!).
And yet I am incredulous that someone of the experience and playing at the standard of Ashley Cole has failed to practice using his right foot for kicking.
Two footed players "unique" ? ~ gimme a break!Anthony has been two footed since he could kick a ball because I judicioisly made sure he would be............rolling a tiny ball to either foot in turn and I do the same to Calvin now who is just 16 months old.
The left side of the brain drives the right side of the body and vice versa and it is natural to be predominantly in favour of one side but this can be overcome by retraining the brain in the same way that stroke victims overcome their paralysis so that they can use their left hand if they had been right handed but lost the use of it. It's just a question of practice, practice, practice. I was born left footed and right handed but worked on my right foot enough to be comfortable with either foot ~ bloody useless but comfortable
It IS through lack of practice that players are one footed and although I'll concede there have been some genius one footed players (surely none finer than Ferenc Puskas who was painfully left footed) if you really care to study players on the world stage you will see plenty of world class two footed players.
The younger someone is, the less difficult it is to overcome one footedness, so the hard work needs to be done at the very outset; then it becomes as natural as breathing and that is why ALL soccer tots classes should feature less on the "but they must have fun" mantra and more on the basics. To me "they must have fun" is an apologists excuse for failing to attain the levels needed and a diversion from the need to acquire basic technique.
I spend loads of time with Anthony, chucking him balls to get under control in difficult situations ~ balls that would be called "rubbish" balls out on the football field ~ under his chin, too wide, too fast and sold short; so that he maintains the ability to get that ball under control when he is under pressure in a game and in a tight corner. All the "Cruyff Turns" and "Messi Flicks" in the world won't help you if you haven't got command of the ruddy ball in the first place and all the genius's have mastered the basics.
What's the use of being able to do "Keepie Uppies" for minutes at a time if you can't trap a bag of cement? If you have the first touch of a rapist, or if you shank everything with your "weaker" foot?
Ashley Cole is a wonderfully gifted footballer, but he could have been so much better.