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Post by aussie on Jun 27, 2011 17:10:17 GMT
Getting extremely p1ssed off with the lack of bottle and action shown by Westlands School, my daughter has been assaulted three times this year by another girl in her level, the first time she pushed Rhianan down the stairs and the school said they would deal with it then Rhianan gets punched in the face by this same girl, today she was assaulted again in a way I cannot describe on here! The Deputy Head rang me after I rang the school and refused to deal with it after telling me she believes this toerag, anyone who has ever met Rhianan will tell you she is extremely well behaved and well mannered (still working out where she gets it from) , Rhianan is being put into GCSE level at the age of 13 because she is a model student and the Deputy Head believes the one with the appauling behavioural record, there were witnesses that have been ignored all because the school is spineless and won`t deal with real issues, they just tick feckin` boxes! Question is do I go to the police or do I pay a visit to this girls parents and let the natural steps unfold? It seems to me that the school will pander to the ones that mis-behave because they think that the good kids will just get over it, well f*** them, I`ve had enough of their lefty gutless sh1te! Keep an eye on the local press!
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Post by petef on Jun 27, 2011 17:45:30 GMT
Come to a head then Aussie? Its difficult one as I see it you will just have to continue pestering to get the sittuation resolved. Surely the school has set procedures for instanaces such as this but whatever you do dont take the law into your own hands or you will be the one in the shite. Seek independent advise if the school refuse to deal with it there must be organisations that can help. Nothing worse than seeing your and dearest suffer when you have little or no power to protect her. Good luck to the both of you. Just found this website where you may be able to get some advice . www.kidscape.org.uk/parents/ |
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Post by rjdgull on Jun 27, 2011 18:11:45 GMT
Adam, I think the first step is to ask for a copy of the school bullying policy to check that you have been dealt with fairly and according to the school's own rules! If you still have no joy write a letter to the chair of governors as they are people that are there to hold the staff to account. If you need any help with that then give me a shout.
All the best and I hope that this situation is resolved as soon as possible.
Rob
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Post by stuartB on Jun 27, 2011 19:35:05 GMT
If you fail to get help from the governors, then contact the Education Authority. Have had the same issues with both of mine but it is difficult knowing when to step in because you could make it worse for your child. Your first instinct is to jump in with both feet. I even wanted to hit the child concerned but that is definitely not the right thing to do. your natural instinct is to protect, so do it the best way you can. Take a deep breath, aussie  |
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Post by lambethgull on Jun 27, 2011 19:43:03 GMT
In an ideal world you'd take a visit to the parents and tell them to sort it out. No cops, no headmasters, no violence.
In reality this approach could backfire in a number of ways. You won't always be there when your daughter has to face these kids, and the parents could claim that it was you who was threatening them and make a complaint about you.
As tough as it sounds, I'd take up rjdgull and stuartb's advice if I were you and try and get the school to sort it out, whilst reminding them of their obligations.
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Post by loyalgull on Jun 27, 2011 20:56:34 GMT
bullying is still rife,and sadly the victims are left to their own devices most of the time.My eldest boy confessed he had been bullied at school for 8 months by one boy,my lad kept getting what they call 20/20 room for hitting this boy,it turned out he was sticking up for himself,a far worse crime than bullying it seems.But of course we now live in a society where retalliation is unacceptable,but being a bullying arsehole is turned a blind eye too quite often.Aussie the school know they have to deal with this,persist until they do something positive or go over their heads if needed,the education authority getting involved would rattle their perch mate
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Post by aussie on Jun 28, 2011 13:24:59 GMT
I have combined your advice and I am following it, it`s very difficult to not lose it completely and smash the heads in of certain parents but I am and have be strong for my daughter therefore the correct channels will be followed, thank you all!
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